Continuing from the previous post, now that both family agreed it is time for guy and girl to meet BUT they cannot meet alone...oh! NO! NO! it is one of the things what family hate that a girl and guy meeting alone talking about marriage (yes, you can meet your friends who are guy/girl alone but not this). So a neutral venue is decided which is convenient for both the parties as one does not one to feel too desperate to meet. Well someone with girl will come either Mama or Chacha (uncles) or sisters or brothers and from guy side maybe his sister/brother whoever they are close to.
The middle man will be there to introduce each other and then take a leave. So everyone sits down and there is a initial silence when someone breaks the ice. And then talks starts with what do you do, where do you work, what your job profile exactly is, will you change the city etc etc which generally elders start speaking about. So if you have to look confident answer in short sentences and do not disclose more than asked for. After sometime they will say the girl and guy to sit in another table and talk.
Now the interesting part starts....yes really interesting, it is like meeting your potential future and deciding it one meeting if you like her or not.
You go away and try to find a place to sit away from your known people so they do not overhear the conversation. Now is the important part your brain has million questions but your speech does not respond to it where you are generally blank. First question generally asked is how many prospects have each other met. If the other person has highest number tell them to take the lead or if both are same then best would be talk about movies, music, travelling, etc etc. Then come to all important topic, what do you want to see in your husband some have lots of fancy requirements as if they want a Ferrari while some are happy with a high version of Verna. Then talks move onto habits like drinking, smoking, eating non-veg (in our religion we do not eat non-veg but most do) and I must say answer those correctly because these are the things you cannot hide. Funny though you generally forget to ask about do you cook? do you believe in religion? do you pray everyday in a temple? YES for some it is a big deal. And to top it off you start talking about work, future plans in career etc etc.
After all of above discussion there is a big long silence which is the cue that talking is done and we both do not have anything to ask that is the time when you say let us go back with the folks sitting on the table. Again some discussions will happen on the table and then bill is paid because you have to eat or drink something. Everyone greets each other and says goodbye.
When you come home is another part where your folks are really really interested on what did you speak about. So wait for Part 3.
The middle man will be there to introduce each other and then take a leave. So everyone sits down and there is a initial silence when someone breaks the ice. And then talks starts with what do you do, where do you work, what your job profile exactly is, will you change the city etc etc which generally elders start speaking about. So if you have to look confident answer in short sentences and do not disclose more than asked for. After sometime they will say the girl and guy to sit in another table and talk.
Now the interesting part starts....yes really interesting, it is like meeting your potential future and deciding it one meeting if you like her or not.
You go away and try to find a place to sit away from your known people so they do not overhear the conversation. Now is the important part your brain has million questions but your speech does not respond to it where you are generally blank. First question generally asked is how many prospects have each other met. If the other person has highest number tell them to take the lead or if both are same then best would be talk about movies, music, travelling, etc etc. Then come to all important topic, what do you want to see in your husband some have lots of fancy requirements as if they want a Ferrari while some are happy with a high version of Verna. Then talks move onto habits like drinking, smoking, eating non-veg (in our religion we do not eat non-veg but most do) and I must say answer those correctly because these are the things you cannot hide. Funny though you generally forget to ask about do you cook? do you believe in religion? do you pray everyday in a temple? YES for some it is a big deal. And to top it off you start talking about work, future plans in career etc etc.
After all of above discussion there is a big long silence which is the cue that talking is done and we both do not have anything to ask that is the time when you say let us go back with the folks sitting on the table. Again some discussions will happen on the table and then bill is paid because you have to eat or drink something. Everyone greets each other and says goodbye.
When you come home is another part where your folks are really really interested on what did you speak about. So wait for Part 3.
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